Living through the first hours, days and then months seems like an impossibility. Just about everyone has had to endure the pain of a lost love, a love go wrong and we must go through the pain.
This is also a time to reflect on the good and the not so good in that relationship. We can and that is exactly why we have multiple relationships, to learn what we want and need from a union with another person.
We are here to continue to evolve in our lives and to learn from all our experiences even the painful ones. As a human being we can not find in another person the things to complete us as a person. Others can bring a degree of happiness, adventure, love and a multitude of other feelings and experiences into our lives. But if we are not truly our own best friend and love ourselves, no one else can give us what we want.
Those things come from within not from another person, place or thing. When this lesson is learned, and not all people learn this early in life or at all, only then will a person truly be happy.
Have you heard someone say when I get this – job, house, boyfriend, car I will be happy? Happiness is the process one goes through to acquire these things not the things themselves. How often have you said “I will be happy when I get _______”, then for a short while you felt happy then an uneasiness or emptiness and you go for a new goal. This is “looking in all the wrong places” as the saying goes. Look to yourself find happiness in the one and only place it really can come from – inside you!
When another someone comes along and they will, you will be ready and if you have learned this lesson, you will be the right one.
Create The Life You Want to Live,
Juanita ~ Evolving Naturally